Being engaged is awesome in so many ways.  You have a cute boy (ostensibly for all of eternity now), a fabulous ring, but you haven’t yet changed your name so you still have some of that single-girl attitude…  Sigh…  For the most part, it’s bliss.  There are just a few weird little details that crop up once you’re engaged that you mayyyybe didn’t realize or consider when you were just dating/living in sin with that adorable boy of yours (or, at least popped up when KC got all romantic on me and was all, “Let’s do this, FOR REAL.” — by the way, pretty much anything I say KC said to me when he proposed is completely false and for illustrative purposes only.  Yes, it’s also called “lying” in some circles, I believe).

So this is my list, and my list alone.  I in no way speak for other brides-to-be in my list (in fact, a lot of the below probably wouldn’t bother other W2B’s one bit).  So take it all in knowing that I might be the only person on the planet who’s mildly uncomfortable with the following 10 things.  (But really, I’m sort of ok with that.)

1. The term “fiancee”  (you already knew that though)

2. The words “hubby” and “wifey” (I silently die a little when people use them)

3. People thinking it’s ok to move on from asking “So, when are you guys gonna get married?” to “So, when are you guys going to have kids?”  (Really??  We’re not even MARRIED yet!)

4. The whole, “Are you planning on losing weight for your wedding?” thing.  (For the record: you’re kind of implying I’m fat just by asking, which is just rude.  And, by the way, I’m not.  And yes, I’m serious.)

5. Dealing with who’s on and who’s off the guest list.  It’s just awkward.  (And unless you have a giant venue and an unlimited budget — or maybe just a teeny tiny family — you’ll likely have to deal with it too.)

6. I’m not even going to list this one because I’m sure it will just come off as snarky.  Enough said.

7. Having vendors that fall through and having to start from scratch all over again.  It’s the worst.

8. The “You’re not going to [insert tradition/activity/task/other here] at your wedding, are you?” questions.  (Um, yeah, actually I AM going to throw the bouquet.  Deal with it.)

9. The random people who take pictures of your ring on BART, thinking that you won’t notice.  (Yes, girl standing across the train, I did see you, and it WAS supremely awkward.  If you want to see it, just ask.)

10. Registering for gifts.  It wasn’t as awful as I thought it would be, but it’s still pretty weird to “sign up” for gifts you want people to give you.  (Or it was for me at least.)

***Disclaimer: Now don’t get me wrong, I’ll say it again — I’m loving being engaged (and I’m glad I get to be the “W2B” for a whole year before just becoming “W” — you only get to be engaged [for the first time] once!).  I just thought I’d put down a few of the weird things I’ve dealt with since KC got down on one knee and put a ring on it.

Oh yeah, and the kids questions?  They happen.  For real.

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