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Lark / Motherhood / Toddler

Motherhood Update: Lark at 18 months

August 16, 2018

Saying: Oh my gosh… EVERYTHING! Lark is whipping out new words every day now and is proving to be quite the chatterbox. She probably has 100 words at this point, which is sort of insane.Eating: Lark is still a great eater (thank goodness, because age 3 is proving to be P-I-C-K-Y for someone in our house) and eats just about anything I put in front of her, whether it’s pizza or chicken and roasted veggies with tzatziki. The arrival of 6(!) more teeth has made mealtime a bit easier, I think, though the onslaught of them all coming in at once certainly cramped nap and bedtime for quite awhile.

Sleeping: As I mentioned above, Lark recently got 6 teeth over the course of just a couple weeks (all 4 molars included!) It was rough stuff for sure, and I felt so bad for her because she would be soooo tired but clearly unable to sleep through the pain. She ended up staying up late with us a couple of nights, which while not ideal, was pretty sweet nonetheless. I feel like we have had so much less one-on-one time with Lark over the past 18 months than we had with Prim, so it’s nice to steal those random moments with her where there’s no one else stealing the spotlight.

Doing: Lark has finally started walking full-time now. She took her first steps at 15 months while we were vacationing in Vienna, but continued crawling for weeks after that. For whatever reason she decided that she would walk when she was sure she had mastered it — none of this toddling around BS for Lark!

Latest milestone: Lark is walking and climbing and basically trying to do everything Prim does, including climbing up onto the arm of the couch and then jumping onto the seat cushions (cut to me yelling “how many times do I have to tell you not to climb on the couch!” I am SUCH a mom.) With all the walking and talking it has become clear that the baby stage is officially over, and let me tell you, my heart CANNOT TAKE IT.

Favorite toys: I recently unearthed numerous old phones and iPods when we moved into our new house. Having no use for an iPhone 4 or ancient Blackberry, I put the lot of them into the playroom for the kids to play with. Lark loves to make calls and often walks around with the phone up to her ear saying, “Hewo, Pim?” (Hello, Prim?) and let me assure you: it’s the most adorable thing EVER.

Sweetest things: Lark is a much more snuggly kiddo than Prim was, and now when I put her down for nap or bedtime she lays on my shoulder as I hold her and sing to her (she loves “I Will” by the Beatles.) Prim has caught on and now requests I hold her while I sing her song (“Blackbird‘), so really Larky’s snuggliness has turned into a win for all of us.

Favorite thing about this age: Hearing Lark’s vocabulary expand and watching her turn into more of a “kid” is so sweet. She clearly wants to do everything Prim does, and Prim is (usually) very good about including her in her play. One of Lark’s favorite words is “yeah” and it’s so cute asking her a question and hearing her yell out “Yeah!” like it’s the most exciting thing she’s been asked all day.

Baby / Lark / Motherhood

Motherhood Update: Lark at 15 months

May 18, 2018

I’m a couple days late in posting about this little love, but we’re in full move-management mode right now, which has kind of taken over a lot of my brain. 

Saying: Lark seems to be picking up new words on a daily basis right now. I am constantly surprised by the words coming out of her mouth (I recently tried counting the number of words she has but stopped when I got to 30). The way Lark talks is also so hilarious, because everything is sort of yelled like it’s an emergency. One of her favorite words is “bike” (of course, little Dutch child) and it seems like she’s constantly upset that she can’t ride the loopfiets yet because she’s always pointing at it and yelling “BIIIIKE!!”

Eating: Lark is still obsessed with Thai curry (girl ate two GIANT bowls of it last night), but her newest love is cereal. I introduced a fork and spoon at mealtime when she turned one, and she’s become very competent with both over the last three months. Since she wants to have everything Prim has, and Prim sometimes has cereal as part of her (very large) breakfast, Lark has gotten to try out her skills on Rice Krispies and Special K (the only non or low-sugar cereals they have here). She’s now regularly pointing at the boxes on the shelf and shouting “Eeeereal!” at me.

Sleeping: I recently weaned Lark, which ended up being a very easy transition. KC took over nap and bedtime duties while he was home over a long weekend and she slipped into the new routine without issue. This is the first time in 3 years and 8 months that I haven’t been pregnant and/or breastfeeding, so it’s been kind of strange and amazing to not be attached (literally or figuratively) to a baby for the first time in such a long time.

Doing: Lark is becoming more and more of a toddler each day. With all of her new words and skills, I find myself wondering where my baby went. She is very clearly the second child, as she wants EVERYTHING Prim has right now — toys, food, all of it. She also recently added “me too” to her vocabulary, which might just be the most second-child phrase of all time.

Latest milestone: Lark is walking assisted these days and can stand unassisted quite well. I have no doubt that should could walk if she wanted to, but just like Prim, she is clearly going to walk when she decides to — with no help or coaxing from us. Whenever you’re ready, girl!

Favorite toys: Lark has recently become OBSESSED with babies. Prim has two dolls — “big baby” and “little baby” — that she sleeps with and carries around often. Lark somehow wised up to these toys and would spend much of her day screaming “BABY!” and pointing to the dolls. After I heard her wake up from her nap screaming “BABY!” everyday for a week, I finally decided it was time to get her a doll of her own. She snuggles and kisses her baby, and I am honestly kind of dumbfounded at how baby-obsessed these two girls are. I haven’t tried to push dolls on them at all, but they are still just the sweetest little mamas to these babies of theirs.

Sweetest things: Lark has started giving “real” kisses recently, as opposed to the sweet, open-mouthed baby kisses. She will often climb into my lap, give me a big hug and then grab my face with both hands and kiss me. I’m sure she will be mortified someday to find out that she once liked kissing her mama on the mouth, but man do I love those sweet, drooly kisses.

Favorite thing about this age: Hearing Lark communicate what she wants has been so amazing (and helpful!) She seems to have finally transitioned out of the extremely clingy stage and is now exploring and playing more on her own. Seeing her crawl into the kitchen, point to the fridge and yell “CHEEEEESE!” or watching her crawl to the back door and scream out “POOL!” is so much nicer than the insistent but indecipherable shrieking she was doing just a couple of months ago. She seems to understand me more as well when I tell her that she needs to wait her turn or not do something (I mean, she’s not always happy about it, but she at least seems to understand it.)

Motherhood / Personal

Forgotten Photos, Part Two

May 3, 2018

As I mentioned in yesterday’s post, I recently came across some forgotten photos when I uploaded shots from our DSLR after our trip to the Keukenhof. In addition to the photos from the first few days following Lark’s birth, there were also some shots from a few months later. I think these were taken in late July of last year, making Prim about 26 months and Lark around 5 months old. I saw that first photo of Lark and totally laughed because she basically looks like a living doll. Also, those cheeeeeeeks. This was also when Prim’s hair was just getting long enough to be put up into ponytails. It was a big moment for me, even though she would often have them ruined or pulled out of her hair within a matter of minutes.Before Lark was mobile, the two of them would spend a lot of time under that little play gym together. It was so sweet to see them just lay and play together, as though they had known each other and been friends forever. What an unexpected joy it is to find these photos. We use our phones to take photos 99% of the time, so I’m never really stumbling across forgotten moments like this. Finding these was such a treat (and a good reminder that I really need to break out the big camera more often!)

Baby / Lark / Motherhood / Personal

Forgotten Photos, Part One

May 2, 2018

After it had been sitting on the shelf for a year or so, we broke out our nice camera when we went to the Keukenhof a few weeks ago. When I got around to loading the photos onto the computer after our trip, I was surprised and delighted to find a bunch of images captured from the first few days after Lark’s birth We did have the sense to drag the camera out for such a momentous occasion, but I apparently was suffering from “new mom brain” just long enough to completely forget about the photos until after Lark was a year old. She was the tiniest little thing. Can you even believe those little legs?? I mean, just give me all the heartbreak emojis and another baby immediately. Where has the time gone?! And let’s not forget about (little!) big sister Prim! She was just 21 months when Lark was born. I definitely felt like she was such a big kid at the time, which, compared to brand-new Larky, she was, but now looking back at these pictures I’m like, she’s a baby!

Also that no-makeup + robe + unbrushed hair look is straight #newmomlife all the way. We even had a few pictures of the kraamzorg taking care of Lark, since that was the week she was at the house. That little hammock is how she would check Lark’s weight every few days (look at those teeny feet peeking through!) Luckily, though Lark was very little, she breastfed and gained weight like a CHAMP.

Oh man, all the feelings, guys. All the feelings.

Baby / Motherhood / Toddler / Travel

Coming to America + an amazing travel find

February 26, 2018

Hello hello! I think I mentioned in an earlier post that we had a trip to California planned — and that’s where we are right now. The girls and I flew out last Monday and KC will be joining us in a couple weeks once his busy season at work has ended.

The flight went ok. My parents were on the same flight but weren’t in the same row as us or anything, so while I did have some help, I did the bulk of the work myself. I would have said it was a very successful flight, but about an hour and a half before we landed Prim ended up throwing up, which kind of disrupted things a bit. (She’s been on some antibiotics that upset her stomach occasionally — poor thing.) Lark also had a giant meltdown as we were landing, but honestly, with babies this age it’s kind of to be expected on a flight that long. We had all been up since 6am Amsterdam time and by the time we were landing it was 9pm over there and Lark had slept a total of about 40 minutes broken into two naps on the flight, so she was just done.

One of the things I have learned after taking so many flights with kiddos is that some stuff you have to just let go of. I used to stress out about any noise my kids made and would be wracked with guilt if one of them was having a meltdown. Now I go into long flights knowing that the kids will make some noise and that they may have a meltdown at the very end after I have tried everything in my power to keep them quiet. Honestly, it’s par for the course and the people sitting nearby will survive. This is not to say that I don’t try to keep my kids quiet on the plane — I work my butt off to keep the kids calm and entertained (seriously, next time you’re annoyed that you’re on a flight with young children, know that their parents are way more stressed and worried about flying with them than you are. TRUST ME.) It’s more that I’ve come to accept the realities of flying with young children. Sometimes there’s noise, sometimes there’s a meltdown, and when you’re really unlucky, sometimes there’s puke.

Anyway, onto an amazing travel find! Lark is at the age that I think is most difficult to travel with. She’s mobile but not walking and doesn’t have good spacial awareness yet, so she wants to move around in her seat but doesn’t comprehend that leaning headfirst into the legroom area is a pretty bad idea. Also, if you’ve traveled with very young children you probably know about the special hell that is them dropping or throwing toys into the foot space and then having to contort yourself to try and retrieve them.

We had a seat for Lark on the plane, and while some parents opt to carry on a carseat for children this age, I knew that would never work for Lark. She is hardly ever in a carseat to begin with (we have no car in Amsterdam) and she absolutely hates being in the car in general anyway. If you’ve been reading the blog for awhile, you might remember that we brought the carseat on the plane when we moved to Amsterdam when Prim was almost exactly the same age Lark is now. After that flight I was firmly in the camp of NEVER bringing a carseat onboard. So if your kiddo loves the carseat — cool, more power to you. If they don’t love the carseat or you’re not positive it’s the best option for your little one — I’ve got something for you!

I came across this while trying to figure out a solution to the problem of flying with a crawler, but just couldn’t justify the price tag, even for 10 hours of sanity. I thought that there may be another cheaper option on Amazon and ended up doing a deep-dive into the world of inflatable footrests. They all have different dimensions, price tags and reviews, and so after literally drawing out the dimensions of like six different options, I ultimately landed on this one and purchased two — one for Lark and one for Prim. (I mean, look at that photo of Prim up there — all that wasted space where her feet are!)

I tested one of them out at our apartment first, inflating it myself, and it was doable — it took maybe a minute, taking it slow so that I wouldn’t pass out from all the deep breathing. However, I knew I would be packing Prim’s travel bed rail for our trip as well (we bring it everywhere with us — totally recommend!) which has a small hand pump, and so packed the pump in my carry-on (you can see it in the photo above — it’s that orange thing). This was such a smart move, as blowing both of these up at 35,000 feet would have been annoying, and because they fit so snugly in the foot space between the seats, it would be difficult to shove them into place after they were fully inflated. With the pump I was able to inflate them to about 90% and then put them into place and finish inflating them, so they fit tightly between the seats.

I covered the two seats and footrests with the airplane blankets we were given, which made things not only cozier, but much easier to clean up. If you’ve flown on a long flight with young kids you know that the seats often look like you’ve murdered a few sleeves of Saltines by the time you land, so I totally recommend the blanket trick. The blankets were also my saving grace when Prim threw up, because I just bundled up the blanket she was sitting on and handed it over to the flight attendant and ended up with a completely clean seat afterwards.

The footrests give the girls way more space to move around and even makes it so they could lay down if they wanted to (as though they would ever voluntarily go to sleep on a flight though — haha! Uggghhhh.)

If you’re going on a long-haul flight with a kiddo I can’t recommend this footrest enough. It folds up small so it’s not a hassle to pack it in a carry-on, and it inflates and deflates quickly. I stuffed a couple of the complimentary pillows into any open crevice next to the footrests so there was literally nowhere that toys could fall and get lost, which saved both my back and my sanity on the 10+ hour flight.

I’ll try to do another post about what I brought on the plane for traveling with the girls since I now feel like I’ve traveled enough to pack pretty strategically, and knowing what and how much to pack is one of the most daunting parts of traveling with kids, I think. (Because you can totally get into the headspace of thinking that you need bring anything and everything when you travel with kids — I totally get it.)

If you have any questions about traveling with kids in the meantime, feel free to leave a comment and I’ll respond as soon as I can!